Time to catch up on the last few weeks, have been quite busy and didn’t have a chance to write anything so here is the first busy weekend since my last post.
Friday
F has proven to be a regular weekend feature so on Friday we met after work to have dinner in Soho. We then went back to my place to watch a movie. Things never get hot at this stage with him. But as usual, once we’re in bed and the lights are off he starts to get close and then it’s all go.
He left in the morning after some morning sex and a nice breakfast to meet a friend for some shopping. He later texted me saying he’d bought me some gloves – just some days earlier I had mentioned I had lost mine on a train. It was a nice gesture.
I feel he’s getting closer but there are still some doubts in my mind, especially since he sometimes plays a bit cool. Personally, I don’t like games.
Saturday
After F left I had some time free and started chatting with a guy from Taiwan I met on one of the usual websites. I find him extremely cute and in some ways he reminds me of H, similar look, haircut and equally playful.
It all started as a normal chat, then we switched on the cams, soon he started asking to remove pieces of clothing and somehow we ended up indulging in some cyber-sex. Not something I like as such but hey…
Later that afternoon EH was coming around. Since I enjoyed our last time so much and was free on Saturday I thought I’d invite him over for more of the same.
EH is such a sweet guy, we always start chatting in the sofa and slowly start getting comfortable and end up very close where the kisses start. It’s slow, sweet and romantic before we finally move on to bed where we spent a couple of hours.
At some point he looked at me and told me “I like you very much”. That’s the closest to a love declaration I’ve had since H. Unfortunately, despite how much I enjoy his company I haven’t yet really seen him as boyfriend material. So I had to be careful as I don’t want to make promises that I cannot fulfil but made me thing I should probably wait a bit before meeting him again.
Afterwards we had dinner and watched a DVD before going to sleep, and I do mean sleep…
Last time he came on a Sunday so waking up was a rushed affair. This time was very different; with nothing to do until the afternoon we cuddled, kissed and had tender sex before was time for brunch.
Later, while we were making time we spoke only at times, the rest we just cuddled and kissed in the sofa until it was time to leave. Somehow it was all but boring. But I do wonder when will that wear off…
Sunday
You see, the previous day S texted asking if I wanted to meet him. By then I was seeing EH so I couldn’t but when he said he’d be busy for a couple of weeks I suggested meeting Sunday afternoon instead. He’d just had a flu so I wasn’t keen in bringing him home for fear of getting it myself so I suggested meeting in Soho. I didn’t want to let things cool off as personality wise I think he’s the best match of all my current dates.
So I left EH in Chinatown and headed towards Soho to meet S. About 50 metres from the café we were meeting F appeared all of the sudden! He was there with some friends and invited me to join them.
I had to excuse myself saying I was meeting some other friends but I promised that if my friends were late I’d pop in for a coffee. Of course an empty promise, I’m not sure how I’d introduce F and S to each other… so I said goodbye and hoped we wouldn’t cross again that afternoon.
S arrived shortly after and as usual conversation flowed easily. This is something that doesn’t happen with F so often; I’m increasingly concluding we don’t have that many interests together. The topic that most interests him seems to be fashion, which is not really my preferred topic.
We headed for some food followed by dessert at one café and then some coffee at another. During the night he apologised a few times for the fact that he hadn’t been able to see me much and wouldn’t in the near future either.
He’s going to have some visitors the next couple of weeks so it’ll be a while until we meet again. I worry that his time constraints aren’t allowing for enough time together for anything to develop. I quite like him and we do have a few things in common but even if things developed slowly I wonder where they would lead.
Would I want a boyfriend that’s always busy with work and can only see from time to time? Isn’t that going to be a source of frustration? After all I often have so many dates simply to avoid staying home on my own and an absent boyfriend wouldn’t really help.
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IMH(and very corporate)E, no one is THAT busy as not to be able to take care of his (prospective) BF. They say ‘If there is a will, there is a way’ for a very good reason.
Life requires sacrifices at times. You may not have as much time at your hands as you would normally want to. At times, the timings might not be very comfortable. And at other times, a dude bites the bullet, and spends a bit more dough than he really wants to. But he gets the good thing going HIS way.
Yet, judging by the tone of your postings, I believe that guys you are meeting mostly for sex are very keen on being totally übercool. These guys are really playing the field, and even though some of them might be interested in a bit more of emotional bonding, they are going to any length to make sure that this does not show even in the slightest for the fear that it may scratch that carefully cultivated übercool image.
Having a meaningful, real BF, in my books, really means that you feel unquestionably attracted to that guy, and that you are willing to do your part (within some reason) to make sure that your relationship works.
Just my proverbial 2 cents…
SC
Well, some are playing the field for sure. Others I’m not sure.
For example, with S the question is what he may actually be interested at this time of his life. He may not be looking for a bf, but still wants someone to see from time to time that will fill the voids of a busy professional life. I know from other people working on his field that his work pattern is not unusual. But at the start of his career his priority may well be making a place for himself and not finding a partner. Of course, should he really fall in love he may just make the necessary room, but at the same time that’s something he may be trying to avoid.
I, on the other side, am quite bored with my professional life and have reached a comfortable position. My priority right now is certainly finding a bf, not taking my director’s job.