Following from part 1:
I asked him when I would be able to see him again but he wasn’t sure. So I thought I’d wait a couple of days until he decided what to do and try to see him during the weekend when I’d ask him to be my boyfriend…
I posted the pictures from the weekend on Facebook including a few with both of us in. Who would have thought what that would lead to…
A couple of days later I was chatting with LO on MSN (A more fruitful weekend part 1 and Keep coming but they’re all taken). He had seen my pictures and asked me how did I know EH, I told him we’ve had a few dates in the last few months. He asked a bit more and then let the bomb drop.
When I asked him how did he know EH he told me his ex used him to make him jealous when they broke up. LO says his ex has not got over him and is still with him. But he also thought they were still together and that they even thought were living together!!
OK, that was a bit of a shock so I asked him whether he was sure and he told me he’d ask his ex that evening.
Just before I went to sleep LO returned from work and confirmed the bad news. They were living together. He then told me his ex didn’t consider EH a life partner but more of a sex partner though.
LO had been heavily flirting with me lately so I was wondering how accurate the whole thing was. And with that thought I went to sleep.
EH and I always exchange text messages or chat online and his internet connection wasn’t working. Allegedly he’d moved recently from his old student flat into another one and they hadn’t got broadband yet. Or at least that’s what EH had told me. So on Friday morning I texted him and asked him whether he’d decided about his trip to China and whether he’d be able to meet that weekend.
He replied quite quickly, although he didn’t answer any of my questions. His text said he hadn’t been “very honest” with me and that he was with someone at the moment, he called himself an idiot and told me he didn’t know how to tell me. I later found out LO told his ex EH was dating someone else as well, hence his sudden confession.
I was on my way to work and felt devastated. I didn’t expect that from EH. He always appeared to me so sweet and honest. What hurt me wasn’t that he’d been seeing someone, I don’t mind that, we weren’t boyfriends, and I did too; it was that he hid something as significant from me and that he basically led me on and on every time I gave a step. He never gave me any indication I may be going into a cul-de-sac, on the contrary, he encouraged me.
We exchanged quite a few messages, I wanted to know more and why. I asked him why he’d told me he liked be very much and his answer was because he did. When I asked him why did he totally agreed with me we ought to see each other a lot more often he told me he didn’t know how to tell me and didn’t want to lose me. In the end not only he lost me and he also hurt me.
He wants to stay with the other, much older, guy. I did tell him what LO told me, he wasn’t happy, he may be sticking to a sinking ship but that is his problem now. Even if he’d told me he wanted to be with me I have doubts I would have agreed after what happened. Time to move on.
So here I am, hurt and on square one.
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