It’s common knowledge that people apply different standards to others than to themselves. This was obvious last week when L was agonising over the guy he’s been dating lately.
One of this friends told him he knew the guy from some time ago. Apparently a few years ago he used to sleep with a few people and had even slept with his friend.
So L was now thinking the guy is just as slut and nothing is going to come out of it at all.
Fine, except a) that was some years ago, b) everyone has some history behind and c) how can he think he has no potential because the guy slept with a few people in the past when he sleeps with people too.
Let me expand on that, after L met the new guy and went of several dates with him, he still wanted to have sex with me. Not only did he want to but he actually had it!
So when he called me to tell me all his doubts I reminded him that if the guy should be disqualified because of that, shouldn’t he be disqualified for anyone else too? After all not only he had slept with other people, he had slept with me after meeting the guy! But obviously the answer was he’s different.
And still after that conversation and his continuous struggles on whether the guy is or is not serious he still wanted to have sex again. This time though, I made my excuses.
Although I cannot discard it happening again in the future, I think we may have crossed a line. Some time ago when we dated it was fine, then he found someone and we turned just friends.
So when we met last time I did find it a bit strange, not so comfortable with it anymore. Especially when I was supposed to be “mean”, even though it’s just role-play…
Oh, and I do need to stop sleeping with the wrong people all the time.
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Yup. I find it so immature when a grown up guy starts believing that the history really starts with HIM?
If you want to pop a guy’s cherry, fine, go for it, and advertise accordingly. If not, understand that everyone comes with his own history. Besides, we would all grow tired of showing all the dudes the ropes, if they were all ‘virgins’…wouldn’t we?
You seem to be having loads of fun around. I would not worry too much about your casual dates being ‘the wrong people’. Judging by your blog, a few of them are rather immature, have low self-esteem; some are possibly scheming, etc. Yet, all of that comes with the territory of casual dating for sex. Again, judging by your posts here, you too, just like everyone else, want to get your rocks off. Do your deed, and move on…
SC
SC, I worry a little because I’m getting tired so I’d like to find something more stable really… but at the same time find it hard to resit temptation, maybe I am “like” Wilde when he said “I can resist everything but temptation”.